HOW TO BE YOUR OWN GURU AND OPEN UP YOUR INNER GENIUS?
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We live in the era of self-reliance and there is so much information in the world that pulls us away from connecting with our inner selves. That amount of information will only grow, so it is crucial to be still and listen to the guidance within. I call these tough times - the times of self reliance because we are more conscious about human psychology and much more psychologically evolved compared to even 10 years ago as human collective.
There is so much food in supermarket - you choose what to feed your body with. There are various approaches to cure your disease, all doctors in the world will not agree on one single method - so you choose your method. Who to vote for, to go to the university or not - all of it is a personal choice.
So when talking about enlightenment, we need to truly grasp the idea that THERE IS NO ONE SINGLE TRUTH. Everything is experience and all “truths” are perspective or an angle of observation. People have different definitions for just about anything you can think of, and this includes subjects like love, God, happiness, enlightenment etc. This is not only normal but very natural. This is due to the creative unfolding of nature that can be seen through evolution and the formation of our universe. While definitions and perspectives may be different among people, we share one single core desire which is to feel good, although it may take different paths to get there.
People often see growth and evolution in the same way they look at time in a linear perspective. Yet evolution is multidimensional and while everything in nature is energetically connected; evolution for each living organism is still happening in a unique messy way. Even a good habitual environment for one living being could be detrimental for another one from the very same species. For example, clean water could make a fish sick if that fish adopted to muddy waters over long period of time, while other fishes of same species live in clean waters. The Same goes for a human being. Someone’s personal believes and environment that serve as a great fundament for a happy life could be detrimental for another person and vice versa.
People tend to compare themselves with others because they think that they are on the same road, but in reality, everyone is on very different paths and end walking towards different directions, even those sharing the same goal, because reality is much more complex than parallel lines.
Even though we are on different paths we are all driven by the same underlying desire to be happy. Some achieve it through life accomplishment and success, others through religion. Some people find their happiness through mental health work, through spirituality, or through perfecting physical health with exercise, nutrition and the right supplements. Each of these paths work! But each of these paths don’t work for everyone and at the end not every rich person finds themselves lonely and their life “meaningless.” Additionally, not every spiritual or religious person comes close to living an enlightenment.
To think that one path alone is the right one is extremely limiting. We all experience an “aha moments”, “the moments of truth”, realizations and insights and since there is this deep feeling of resonance with this new awareness - we think that this is the ultimate truth for everyone. However, this is not the case.
Even the teacher you resonate with the most can’t speak your truth 100% of the time. Even if you admire them and respect their opinion; or even if they are acknowledged by millions – it still is not possible for them to speak your truth 100% of the time. They might be more connected to their own source than you are connected to yours. Your goal should not be to fit their truth into yourself but rather use ONLY the part that resonates in the moment to rebuild/reinforce your own connection to your source.
People tend to believe in the perfection of things especially when we talk about subjects as love, God or enlightenment. While the realization of these things, the feeling, the way it can be intellectually explained and the whole experience of it will vary from one guru (person) to another and it can’t be otherwise! If you have to have a guru in life - be your own!
The point of life and the evolution of consciousness is not to arrive at common ground in the ways we see things and not to become selfless beings, but rather for each individual to find and bring forth their own uniqueness and genius.
If you are someone who committed to self-growth, self-love, educating yourself and expanding your mental and spiritual awareness, then I would like to make two points for you:
Developing the skill of being open-minded: Some days we feel more open-minded than other days. There are a lot of factors that affect our ability to have an open mind starting with today’s mood and ending with more complex reasons such as triggers and secondary benefits to see only your perspective. Open-mindedness is not something that is achieved and then kept once it is achieved, but rather it is an energetic awareness that can shrink and expand. I call being open-minded a skill because it is the ability to hold different perspectives in one moment with no negative emotional charge or judgement towards them, so practicing this skill would mean practicing the understanding that every reality or perspective has a right to exist. Holding multiple perspectives simultaneously in your mental space eventually neutralizes emotional charge.
An example of this would be getting into an argument with someone and you know you are right. You feel it in your bones with all your being. At the same time, the other person feels that they are right just as much as you. The thing to do in this situation is to hold both perspectives together within ourselves at the same time. Both truths have the right to exist even though you might not understand where the other person is coming from. It isn’t necessary to fully understand the other perspective because one lifetime isn’t enough to figure ourselves out, let alone someone else.
Holding different perspectives in your mental space simultaneously is not about abandoning your truth. You can still choose your side of the story, and in fact it is the healthy thing to do. Being excessively open minded can result in trying so much to understand another person’s perspective that you may lose yourself and your own truth in the process which can lead to depression. There are plenty of examples of people who want to make a relationship or friendship work to the point of abandoning themselves in the process. When we do this, we cross and disrespect our own boundaries, and the result is more detrimental than not trying to understand the other person at all. You can try to fit into someone else’s shoes, but if you are walking barefoot as a result then it is less beneficial than keeping your own shoes from the beginning. The negative effect of being too open minded actually happens more often than most people even realize. There is no need to sacrifice your own truth just to understand another person and their point of view. You don’t have to do it! Empathetic people tend to get into this trap because they want to be good people and as a result eventually stop being good to themselves.
So, if you want to try this technique when you have an issue with someone else’s perspective, remind yourself that you are both right in your separate realities. You are right and they are right. You don’t have to agree and at some point, it is healthier to agree to disagree. This practice dissolves negative emotional charge and help to let go.
2. The faster you expand your consciousness, the more often you will have to let go of beliefs that you held to be very true to you including the ones that you have recently adopted. When consciousness expands, these beliefs will at some point stop serving their purpose and will hold you back from expanding your consciousness further. Remember that nothing is a final truth, even if it is felt in your bones. Even if you feel like you’ve reached the final understanding of a certain subject. There will come a point where again and again you will need to give up a belief in order to move forward. Nothing is a final truth. Everything is resonance, and it is ok to no longer resonate with something you needed for your evolution in your recent past. We, as humans, overvalued logic and linear thinking to the point we resist the multidimensionality - the very basis of existence.
We got so deep into operating within linear perspectives and disconnected from the “sixth sense” and the universe at large that we don’t only hold on to our every belief but fight wars for them. If you believe in something so deeply it won’t hurt to loosen your grip on that belief and come to neutrality.
This can cause fears, feeling of inadequacy or fear of trusting yourself, but just keep in mind that we are multidimensional creatures. The thinking mind is very limited, your consciousness is able to perceive without thinking and making mental notes at all. Belief is just a thought that felt true to you at some point and that you kept thinking - no belief is a final truth. Even if it’s believed by many people together still doesn’t make it the ultimate truth.
I know that you can debate me on that and make examples of common “ultimate truths” such as God, Love, Enlightenment and similar mind made concepts, but I would have to write another article on that. I would just say that while experience of these things can be similar it will never be the same for even 2 individuals. In this world with more than 7 billion people there are simply way too many theories, and because of the internet and smartphones we have access to millions of perspectives right at our fingertips!
Spiritual information is spreading fast, spirituality is becoming a trend and more and more people experiencing psychic awakening. I love it, it is so exciting! But through spiritual awakening we become more psychically sensitive, mentally and energetically open so we have to be more careful than EVER about what we choose to believe in. It is crucial to filter ALL information we receive BY OUR OWN RESONANCE; this even includes well-intended information from sources you trust.
When filtering out the information that is meant to serve YOU - you must listen to yourself and see what personally TRUE FOR YOU is. This is what I mean by being your own guru. A person that can hold different perspectives but TRUST themselves enough to take their resonance as current (non final) truth.
For example, when I work with clients on individual basis, we work within their belief system. I have no aim to change their beliefs to mine because it is the most pointless thing to do. I can’t help opening up your own genius by imposing everything I know no matter how intelligent I am. Two geniuses with completely different perspectives on life will only add up to the whole if we learn that everything is about unique and personal experiences, not the “final truth”. So, how is it possible to navigate through the complexity of this reality with ease and so we can have happiness in our life? All answers surrounding this question always lead back to ourselves and our connection to source, to life, to the infinite, to God. There are many names for it so call it what you want. There is a doorway in your chest that takes you to your path with your own personal answers and wisdom.
You need the existing information from the outside world in order to widen your perspectives as well as to build a language to translate your own wisdom that comes through. If you heard of the word “channeling” it is something that everyone has access to. It is the process of receiving a stream of consciousness. This is the purest stream of information that can come through according to your unique perception of life. Note, that I am not saying that is it the "ultimate truth" instead, I am saying that it is your personal, purest, most intelligent stream of consciousness that you are capable of receiving at this point of time. No one’s channeling should be perceived as ultimate truth. I will repeat myself - even if it comes from most reputable source. And your goal is to keep opening up your own creative channels to the intelligence that is beyond your thinking mind. That is the doorway to your Genius.
Cut the amount of information you receive on a daily basis including reading books, listening podcasts etc. and start to meditate, do the breath work and other practices that makes you focus and rise your energy up. You will start to receive new awareness, ideas, wisdom and insights. You do need outside information for the reasons I mentioned above but at the same time you have your inner access to your own unique genius intelligent stream of consciousness that is waiting for you to start receiving it.
All this being said, it isn’t bad to listen to others, otherwise I wouldn’t be sharing any of this. However, when you come across an opinion, take only what resonates with you in the moment. Next time the same opinion might not resonate with you at all or it might resonate even stronger. Our consciousness is not set-in stone, it is flowing, so let it flow to access more of multidimensionality.
Every GENIUS creation is NOT COPIED, but it doesn’t mean that other people who came before this creation did not contributed into it. We are the continuation of everything that came before us. Add up every single perspective you come across into your own basket of perspectives, even the ones that contradict each other, but ALWAYS CHOOSE YOUR OWN. In the age of information, this era of internet and opportunities, don’t get lost and don’t waste time searching outside of yourself. Connect with yourself and your source. To walk the path that is meant for you starts with this connection and turning on your navigator, your resonance, your intuition.